The Adult LIE – there is no such thing as an adult.

The world is a tough place to be in, not because the earth and nature is tough, but because of how we humans have established ourselves within this world. We could have established ourselves anyway we wanted to, but we chose it to be this way, the way it is currently in this world, the world is the system, the money system, based and designed on the mind within the human.

It is all about fear and from fear comes control, and from control comes all other systems and constructs. We have through control created wars and poverty; we have destroyed and devastated this earth with our world systems beyond recognition.

I feel so alone, no matter how many people are around me, no matter who I have in my life, may it be an animal, a person, a garden or an entire community, I feel so alone, this loneliness is with me, not with the earth, with life, with the universe, this loneliness I feel is only within me, when I enter this aloneness within me, I can find the effect and cause.

The effect and cause of this loneliness is standing within a time within this world of consequence, and yet I must within this stand within self-responsibility, and this I know I can only find within myself, I cannot run to a mom or dad and say, please hold me and take care of everything, please take the problems away. Please make everything better. This is not going to work, because I realized within myself now as an adult, as a father, that even with being all that, I am now within the shoes of my parents, and they probably feel the same. As I can assume we are all human and thus have the same designs.

So within realizing this now within my location and position within this world, it becomes scary, it becomes overwhelming, the fact that there is NO authority out there that actually stands as authority, it has all been a deceptive game being played. The people that runs our countries, the governments, the people that we trust with our systems (which makes us equally responsible), they are all just like me, my parents, the adults I used to know, now an adult, and realizing that this adult stage isn’t an adult stage, it is just a face of a phase that is put on while hiding all the fears, the insecurities, it is all the same, and I stand now within this realization that no one actually knows what the fuck they are doing, because I grew up to become an adult just to realize that there is no such thing, just no one ever tells you it’s all a lie and that nothing is going to be okay.

It is easy to play a role of being an “adult” when there is money and money can buy the things you need for security and comforts and luxuries, but when there isn’t money, then the real fears comes out, then suddenly things become more real and when things become more real the real self comes out, and this real self is still a child, immature to stand as actual authority and maturity. This child does not know basic living principles or have never developed common sense to live buy, as money has always made the decisions.

So, why do I feel alone within myself? It hasn’t been answered yet within the above written work, but I am going into it, I am finding that the realization itself is why there is an experience of being all alone, because I have seen this now, I cannot unsee it, when I talk to people I realize the immaturity, there is no adult, there is no common sense, there is no principles that is guiding anyone’s lives, never mind the world, it is all hope and opinions, believes, ideas – this isn’t trustworthy, this isn’t reliable, this isn’t solid, it is flimsy and can quickly fall apart.

Has any adult ever told you something along these lines:  I do not know what I am doing, why I am here, what I live for, or that everything will not be okay, because I do not know who is in control of our society, I know the government is there and even though they are corrupt and stealing, I still do not know how our daily lives are functioning, how we are still here making it with a salary every month and affording all the things we have, even with all the countries in the world having to function together to be able to live and yet have wars, I have no idea how shit works, I cannot tell you if It is going to be okay, even though the world is getting worse, I as an adult do not want to tell you that, I will rather lie to you and keep the illusion on, pretend my day In and day out job is amazing, pretend that my relationship is amazing and that the life we have is amazing – has any adult ever come out and say that to you? That shit isn’t going to be okay because we adults all around the world have never really come together and made a clear living condition for this earth that all children must grow up in and then function within, we have just been isolating you in a bubble to make it all look okay, basically lie to you. And YOU/ME fell for it, never challenging it at all, even when we could see.

Well – I am a fucking adult now and I can on behalf of ALL other adults in this world tell you all that, we are fucked. There is NO future for this planet, and I as an adult can tell you that you as an adult are not really an adult, you have been pretending just like me, you have been lying just like me, you have been keeping up this fucking fake reality just like me, and we are raising our children in this…. Why?? I can tell you as an adult having to live for money ISN'T what I wanted life to be, but I played along and pretended, how dare we as adults tell our children through lies that everything will be okay? When it clearly isn’t, we can lie about Santa Claus, but please NOT about life, and please do not sell your children good stories about the afterlife, that does not sort out anything.

STOP pretending as an adult that you know anything, you do not know anything, if you did then this world would have been an all knowing place and not some dumbed down dump where the few can easily sell shit to us by just walking through a mall with a few advertisements. Why could adults NEVER teach me about where thoughts come from? What the fuck they are, where feelings come from, how we create them, how they affect our entire life, what thoughts/feelings and emotions to stop and not to participate in because they will fuck me up in the future, explaining to me as a child how shit works, why was I always given airy fairy explanations about things? Because there wasn’t really any adults around.

The LIE sold to us as children that there is a thing like adults that is taking care of this planet and our futures and understanding life and how things work, is what fucks us up in the long run. This is something I had to and can only now realize with being an adult, a father, a husband a person that has been in the system and learned the system and seen the system and has to survive in the system, this does NOT make you an adult that knows shit, this is a person pretending and faking it till you make it, where you can retire and then say, look I succeeded, I now know what LIFE is all about, its Bullshit, it’s how a perfect slave lives, and still being one of the lucky ones that has opportunity for money, it is how someone lives that actually knows nothing, and as a teenager I was eager to just become that, that adult, to go into it and live it, how wonderful. Luckily for me, I didn’t have the luxuries in life that pushed me into different paths in life, to show me some real hard points and to then have a stable life, and I am still young.

So I know, all adults reading this, I am writing from my own experience and within the understanding of this point. Not within a judgment, but it is time we as adults stop pretending and start realizing that there is no such thing as an adult, and soon you will and might first have a fright when you realize shit, the world is run by fucking morons (this is all of us) that only know how to deceive and manipulate, and that’s not mature and being an adult, and actually also have NO clue what is being done or where the world is heading, just taking it as it comes, no common sense and NO actual understanding of life and how creation works. Just winging it.

Then we can all actually mature and actually develop common sense and actually develop real authority and through that can we actually start LIVING and creating a world that ISN'T a lie to our children but in fact so, this will take time and I know for one, that it is a hard thing to realize, as I see my son and his eyes and see how I would only want the best for him and how I would do anything for him to have that best for the rest of his life, but that’s selling a lie still, because as long as this world is fucked, none of us can claim to be adults, to be mature, to be actual authorities that care about our children’s futures, because on day, they will enter this world, and then the lies will burst and they will suddenly have to face the reality we have accepted and allowed for them through pretending. But I forsee the reality coming to everyone’s doorsteps much sooner as the world isn’t getting better, time for pretending to end and REAL parenting to start.

So let’s stop being adults as we currently know it and start actually educating and taking self-responsibility for ourselves to actually understand reality, how we work as beings, how creation works and get down to taking this earth back and making it a place we adults know it can be for our children, for our future generations, to be actual mature people, actual beings with common sense and understanding.

There is one place I started many years ago, and this is Desteni.org and Bernard Poolman and The Portal.

We have a long journey ahead of us if we truly want to become adults. We can at least start being real about our situation in communication. We can change it with patience and time and unity, equality and oneness. Sharing and openness, Taking self-responsibility for ourselves within ourselves and understanding ourselves first. That’s the first step as this will change all our relationships, with our children and with the world system, lets develop some principles to live and stand by, lets base our foundations on something solid that is Best for all LIFE. And Desteni is just the place, guaranteed – walk the DIP LITE free online course and I can also be your Buddy, work with me work with yourself, and grow.

Day 6 - Working dad, tired dad, excused dad

I haven’t had many encounters with dad’s in my life raising children, all my life I have only encountered dads who come home and sit somewhere and do something with their own time, while the mother is still working/raising a human being (the baby/child).

I used to think nothing of it, it was normal to be that way – because it is all justifiable according to what has been generally accepted, which is – mom raises baby/child/human while dad is out working all day and when he comes home he may just sit and do nothing else but relax and carry the “burden of working and providing.

BUT – this was many years ago, times have changed –in today’s time’s most moms are also working, so now mom and dad are working while the baby/child is taken care of by someone else, either a nanny or a family member, or the child is send to a creche.

So now in many families – including my own, there is a different situation, the situation is both parents come home from a full day of work, and then there is still a baby that needs to be taken care of.

So now we have two scenarios – the one where mom takes care of baby all day and dad comes home from a long day of work and rest/do nothing, and then the other one where both parents work all day and come home and now there is still a baby to look after.

Now what happens within both these situations is quite fascinating – no matter which situation it is – dad gets to rest – primarily in most families, while mom who also came from work still needs to do everything for the baby, which is hard work, plus cooking and cleaning and all the other things.

These are my observations of other families/people that I have met and been with. It is unspoken in the families and simply accepted, or to place it better – it is how they have chosen to accept it.

After observing people and families, I have come to be in the same situation, having a baby and a wife and myself, all three of having to live together with the same circumstances as everyone else in a manner of speaking.

I am working, my wife is working and there is our baby – My wife/partner works from home as she always have, she has a responsibility within work plus now having a baby at home, I work away from home – I have a job that can keep me busy all day as long as it must take to do my work.

So what now? When I come home, my wife has been working plus taking care of the baby and here I come home with the idea that my work for the day is over, meantime my wife never gets off, she is working 24/7.

So what excuses me from not doing more when I get home, what excuses me from doing that part equally as my wife with raising the baby and doing what needs to be done, I mean she is doing it.

This raised an interesting question within me – we MEN love to boast how strong and physically better we are than women, we love to be the provider and the “strong” being in the relationship, we men like to impose that we are better than women, yet I think we men simply like the idea of it all. Because when it comes to what the men are doing versus what the mother/women is doing, we do not compare.

We live in a time where there cannot be any more excuses why we aren’t taking over half the diaper changing once home after work, and doing half the feeding of the baby once home from work, or education and playing with the baby once home from work, mom is able to do it, so why is dad not doing it?

I have been pushing myself to live up to my potential as a worthy father of life by simply using my wife/partner as an example.

I will be sharing real encounters in the next blogs, each point at a time on the topic raised here.
To be continued.

Day 3 - The First Time I met our Baby and his cry Part 1

This is an Old Blog, from the first time (30 October 2013) I held our baby Boy called Cesar in the hospital, and what I was experiencing when he was crying and my over all interaction with him that first time, basically removing the inner experience to remain here as the physical, what real.

when I came home, I sat down and i wrote all this out and then took a really nice long nap and then went back to the Hospital.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react when Cesar starts crying when I am the one busy with him, holding him.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to take it personal when Cesar starts crying when I am holding him or being with him.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to when Cesar starts crying while I am with him to make up ideas/beliefs about myself and what it is or might be about me that he is picking up that is making him cry.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge myself as the fault and the problem and the cause when and as Cesar is crying as I am holding him or touching him, seeing and realizing that this sabotages me from seeing physically what’s here/happening and to direct the point to help Cesar and what he is telling is through the crying as his way of communication.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear touching Cesar in the fear of that I might hurt him with my strength, not knowing.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not trust my touch and my breath as my stability as me when and as I am touching or holding him.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to separate myself from Cesar as being something alien to me when and as I am holding him or touching him.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear being intimate with Cesar as Myself when and as I am holding him, being with him, embracing him here.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear others Judgment’s or opinions on what I am doing when and as I am working with Cesar such as holding him or touching him.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel self-conscious when and as Cesar starts to cry while I am holding him or touching him or just being near him, as if it’s about me and that everyone will judge me as a bad parent because my baby is crying when I am near or around him.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear being corrected by others within what I am doing when I am working with Cesar and to how it must be done correctly, fearing that I will in that moment define myself as incapable, seeing and realizing that it is simple, I breathe and I correct and integrate what’s common sense and practical and best for all and move forward.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear touching Cesar.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear Holding Cesar.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear that Cesar will not like me just because of how I hold him or touch him and that everything I do will be the wrong way.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to belief that there is a wrong way and a right way, seeing and realizing that’s it is to Touch and be here as Touch as me in the Physical and to be of consideration one and equal and to move myself as breathe here and not in fear as the mind.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear that Cesar will find my skinny bony body uncomfortable and thus not like to hang with me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to resist connecting with Cesar and expressing myself with Cesar as I am here and to instead pull slightly away each time and to not engage as me here one and equal in a total entrancement as me, in fear of loss/rejection.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to Fear Losing Cesar and to within this not engage as me in my entire totality one and equal and to instead distance myself within myself from connecting for real.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear rejection from Cesar and to thus within this already reject myself through not fully expressing myself as myself as Cesar one and equal as two Physical beings actually caring for each other.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear that if I truly connect and engage myself as Cesar with Cesar within my total being as who I am that I will within this create a weak spot for myself that will become a weakness for me in cases such as Loss or casualty, thus I see and realize that I am doing from a starting point of fear of loss as death and in self-interest I never truly connect but keep my distance just so that I may feel in control and in power just for in-case anything happen I will be okay, seeing and realizing this selfishness is a compromise and NOT LIVING but holding back and that it has consequences that isn’t best for all or me as who I am.

Day 2 – Money and preperation.

The following point is a point I faced in the past in relation to making the decision on having a baby in relationship with the money point. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see and realize that Money is the most important point to consider when the Idea or decision making of having a baby comes into one’s Life.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see and realize that without Sufficient money to support my life style plus a baby added I will have consequences that does not just affect me but also the Child and the Child’s life in total and thus the future of Life on earth.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to First look at LOVE and if the love within the relationship is good enough or not to have a baby and to only then look at money, instead of looking at – do we want a baby? Yes or no, and then to first look at practicality which is the point of money as the one thing that allows us to eat/drink have basic needs met daily.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to look at having a baby from a limited perspective of how I feel and how my partner feels and that is all that matters, instead of looking at the entire perspective which is within practicality and common sense where I consider the LIFE of the new Being that will/may be entering this world and how I and my Partner will be able to support and assist the new being to reach his/her full potential within NOT making money an Issue within the child’s life and what support the child will receive.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to Belief that real happiness isn’t all about money, seeing and realizing that having money isn’t about happiness it is about having sufficient support and assistance for oneself within the current system and to not suffer, and thus I see that if I base having a baby on this perspective of money doesn’t bring happiness so FUCK IT let’s have a baby – I am then deliberately already creating a life of fear and suffering where its unnecessary and preventable for the child that will create/produce a human/adult that will simply continue giving as what was given – fear and suffering.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that it is BAD and WRONG to make a decision such as having a baby based on money – seeing and realizing that this decision isn’t first based on money as the decision has to first be discussed within the agreement/relationship and then come to a YES/NO answer from both partners and to then from that decision look at the practical points and if they are in place or not such as Money being the first thing, and to then get everything practically in place first and then have a baby.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to belief that if my partner becomes pregnant without us planning it or have prepared for it that it is a gift from some higher form of life, when the truth is there was simply no protection used – and thus have about nine months to get our shit in place.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to belief that something such as having a baby must happen spontaneously for it to be seen as a sign that this is the right time – seeing and realizing that this spontaneous moment is really just due to irresponsibility and not considering actions and their consequences one and equal. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to NOT consider the BIG picture as the world and to then take everything into consideration within the world, and then my life circles/relationships and my personal bubble, and to within this consider all dimensions to check if I am ready to be a father and to take the Full responsibility for another being within the current world and what’s here and to stand within that as a real decision where I can see My life and the life of the baby and where it will be in 50 years for example and if this decision right now can stand within being supportive within all areas of the babies life to be the best and to reach the fullest potential so that the child can with me bring about a world that is best for all life as being the Father/example.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see and realize that there are already Millions of children/babies without parents and homes and basic needs that isn’t close to being met, and thus it is my responsibility to bring a child into this world that will have all the basic needs met for my child and that there is no suffering for my child as this will add one more child to the list of correction, even if it means rather not having a child if the outflow will be that of abuse and suffering. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see and realize that if I want to bring a child into this world that I must be fully aware of how the world functions and where the world is heading as it is currently - so that I know in full awareness what LIFE I am setting up for my child – and thus as I do see this - I see and realize also that it is up to me as a father or a father to be to bring about change within this world not just for my child but for ALL children and all life so that I know my child will live a life I never can/will, and yet give my life for this purpose as what is best for all life as a father.

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To be continued with Self corrective statements.

Day 1 - a new Fathers Journey to Life.

Me and my Partner a few weeks pregnant already.

I am Starting this new Blog - I decided to Jump right in.

The Question is - can anyone be prepared for being a Father?

I have had a couple of conversations with people about becoming a father - especially when i was working as a salesmen, I met a lot of people - and they all say the same thing, a baby changes your life, most of all they COST you a lot of money.

but from what I have heard most men wasn't prepared - they really did not consider the facts and the physical outflows of their actions - You know that one steamy night - and what it really means to be a father, they all simply learned along the way - yes the practical things that one can only learn once the baby is here sure - but I mean being a father as who I/you are, who a person has accepted and allowed themselves to be - which will be the constant education/influence to the baby/child.

which I saw as not really knowing what to do with the child and this is how children are raised and then run the world once we are all old??

I was actually quit shocked with some of the stories, I cant even tell it here on this blog from what people have told me about becoming fathers and how they handled it. mostly it all adds up to this quite nasty game of the fittest will survive and natural selection.

like the father is just there to be there and the mother is just there to be there and the System will take care of the children, send them to school as soon as possible so that the schools can educate them and raise them.

Yes many DO NOT have a choice, sadly this is the world we have created through our acceptances and allowances so we have to face the consequences till we have had enough and change it to a world that is best for all and actually enjoyable.

but those times when dad and mom gets off from work and the kid is at home and the family is together - education continues - this education is through words and behavior and that is happening constantly and another word for education is brainwashing really - and words and behavior is outflows of Who I/you/we Am/are.

some guys shared with me how after they have a child they start considering their words more because they saw the effects it has on their children and their behavior, like HOW they use swear words, not the swear word itself, the How - the who they are within using the swear words. and that they have changed that - so there was some cool points that i was glad to hear. but these points were  only realized once it has already created behavior in the child in relation to the word, and thus the child is quite old already, and thus to late - its learned - not the word - but the intention behind the word and thus a behavioral outflow.

so I listened to a lot of people telling me i must have a baby, I must become a daddy, I must really do it while I am young, then its much more fun and a lot more time to spend with your kids, this is what i am told by other fathers - I found it quite fascinating how obsessed guys were with getting me to become a father?? like group pressure in school.

yet they are mostly at work, making money and paying for the baby/child and they complain about that a lot - and then I am told again that a baby/child gives your life happiness and joy and meaning and it is such a great thing.

it was really mixed messages i got from other people/fathers - But I did not get mixed or moved by it, as i use my own common sense and base my decisions on the common sense and what is practical,

Back to the Question now - can anyone be prepared for being a father?

the answer is YES - of course a person can be prepared - the preparation does not start only once there is news of a baby - the preparation starts already within who I am/who you are and more.and even if there is already news or a baby or child, this still counts, self change is always for the best.

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to be continued on these points on preparation and explanation and SF and SCS that I have supported and assisted myself through.

this blog will have many dimensions within the points of parenting and fatherhood. and my Journey.