The Adult LIE – there is no such thing as an adult.

The world is a tough place to be in, not because the earth and nature is tough, but because of how we humans have established ourselves within this world. We could have established ourselves anyway we wanted to, but we chose it to be this way, the way it is currently in this world, the world is the system, the money system, based and designed on the mind within the human.

It is all about fear and from fear comes control, and from control comes all other systems and constructs. We have through control created wars and poverty; we have destroyed and devastated this earth with our world systems beyond recognition.

I feel so alone, no matter how many people are around me, no matter who I have in my life, may it be an animal, a person, a garden or an entire community, I feel so alone, this loneliness is with me, not with the earth, with life, with the universe, this loneliness I feel is only within me, when I enter this aloneness within me, I can find the effect and cause.

The effect and cause of this loneliness is standing within a time within this world of consequence, and yet I must within this stand within self-responsibility, and this I know I can only find within myself, I cannot run to a mom or dad and say, please hold me and take care of everything, please take the problems away. Please make everything better. This is not going to work, because I realized within myself now as an adult, as a father, that even with being all that, I am now within the shoes of my parents, and they probably feel the same. As I can assume we are all human and thus have the same designs.

So within realizing this now within my location and position within this world, it becomes scary, it becomes overwhelming, the fact that there is NO authority out there that actually stands as authority, it has all been a deceptive game being played. The people that runs our countries, the governments, the people that we trust with our systems (which makes us equally responsible), they are all just like me, my parents, the adults I used to know, now an adult, and realizing that this adult stage isn’t an adult stage, it is just a face of a phase that is put on while hiding all the fears, the insecurities, it is all the same, and I stand now within this realization that no one actually knows what the fuck they are doing, because I grew up to become an adult just to realize that there is no such thing, just no one ever tells you it’s all a lie and that nothing is going to be okay.

It is easy to play a role of being an “adult” when there is money and money can buy the things you need for security and comforts and luxuries, but when there isn’t money, then the real fears comes out, then suddenly things become more real and when things become more real the real self comes out, and this real self is still a child, immature to stand as actual authority and maturity. This child does not know basic living principles or have never developed common sense to live buy, as money has always made the decisions.

So, why do I feel alone within myself? It hasn’t been answered yet within the above written work, but I am going into it, I am finding that the realization itself is why there is an experience of being all alone, because I have seen this now, I cannot unsee it, when I talk to people I realize the immaturity, there is no adult, there is no common sense, there is no principles that is guiding anyone’s lives, never mind the world, it is all hope and opinions, believes, ideas – this isn’t trustworthy, this isn’t reliable, this isn’t solid, it is flimsy and can quickly fall apart.

Has any adult ever told you something along these lines:  I do not know what I am doing, why I am here, what I live for, or that everything will not be okay, because I do not know who is in control of our society, I know the government is there and even though they are corrupt and stealing, I still do not know how our daily lives are functioning, how we are still here making it with a salary every month and affording all the things we have, even with all the countries in the world having to function together to be able to live and yet have wars, I have no idea how shit works, I cannot tell you if It is going to be okay, even though the world is getting worse, I as an adult do not want to tell you that, I will rather lie to you and keep the illusion on, pretend my day In and day out job is amazing, pretend that my relationship is amazing and that the life we have is amazing – has any adult ever come out and say that to you? That shit isn’t going to be okay because we adults all around the world have never really come together and made a clear living condition for this earth that all children must grow up in and then function within, we have just been isolating you in a bubble to make it all look okay, basically lie to you. And YOU/ME fell for it, never challenging it at all, even when we could see.

Well – I am a fucking adult now and I can on behalf of ALL other adults in this world tell you all that, we are fucked. There is NO future for this planet, and I as an adult can tell you that you as an adult are not really an adult, you have been pretending just like me, you have been lying just like me, you have been keeping up this fucking fake reality just like me, and we are raising our children in this…. Why?? I can tell you as an adult having to live for money ISN'T what I wanted life to be, but I played along and pretended, how dare we as adults tell our children through lies that everything will be okay? When it clearly isn’t, we can lie about Santa Claus, but please NOT about life, and please do not sell your children good stories about the afterlife, that does not sort out anything.

STOP pretending as an adult that you know anything, you do not know anything, if you did then this world would have been an all knowing place and not some dumbed down dump where the few can easily sell shit to us by just walking through a mall with a few advertisements. Why could adults NEVER teach me about where thoughts come from? What the fuck they are, where feelings come from, how we create them, how they affect our entire life, what thoughts/feelings and emotions to stop and not to participate in because they will fuck me up in the future, explaining to me as a child how shit works, why was I always given airy fairy explanations about things? Because there wasn’t really any adults around.

The LIE sold to us as children that there is a thing like adults that is taking care of this planet and our futures and understanding life and how things work, is what fucks us up in the long run. This is something I had to and can only now realize with being an adult, a father, a husband a person that has been in the system and learned the system and seen the system and has to survive in the system, this does NOT make you an adult that knows shit, this is a person pretending and faking it till you make it, where you can retire and then say, look I succeeded, I now know what LIFE is all about, its Bullshit, it’s how a perfect slave lives, and still being one of the lucky ones that has opportunity for money, it is how someone lives that actually knows nothing, and as a teenager I was eager to just become that, that adult, to go into it and live it, how wonderful. Luckily for me, I didn’t have the luxuries in life that pushed me into different paths in life, to show me some real hard points and to then have a stable life, and I am still young.

So I know, all adults reading this, I am writing from my own experience and within the understanding of this point. Not within a judgment, but it is time we as adults stop pretending and start realizing that there is no such thing as an adult, and soon you will and might first have a fright when you realize shit, the world is run by fucking morons (this is all of us) that only know how to deceive and manipulate, and that’s not mature and being an adult, and actually also have NO clue what is being done or where the world is heading, just taking it as it comes, no common sense and NO actual understanding of life and how creation works. Just winging it.

Then we can all actually mature and actually develop common sense and actually develop real authority and through that can we actually start LIVING and creating a world that ISN'T a lie to our children but in fact so, this will take time and I know for one, that it is a hard thing to realize, as I see my son and his eyes and see how I would only want the best for him and how I would do anything for him to have that best for the rest of his life, but that’s selling a lie still, because as long as this world is fucked, none of us can claim to be adults, to be mature, to be actual authorities that care about our children’s futures, because on day, they will enter this world, and then the lies will burst and they will suddenly have to face the reality we have accepted and allowed for them through pretending. But I forsee the reality coming to everyone’s doorsteps much sooner as the world isn’t getting better, time for pretending to end and REAL parenting to start.

So let’s stop being adults as we currently know it and start actually educating and taking self-responsibility for ourselves to actually understand reality, how we work as beings, how creation works and get down to taking this earth back and making it a place we adults know it can be for our children, for our future generations, to be actual mature people, actual beings with common sense and understanding.

There is one place I started many years ago, and this is Desteni.org and Bernard Poolman and The Portal.

We have a long journey ahead of us if we truly want to become adults. We can at least start being real about our situation in communication. We can change it with patience and time and unity, equality and oneness. Sharing and openness, Taking self-responsibility for ourselves within ourselves and understanding ourselves first. That’s the first step as this will change all our relationships, with our children and with the world system, lets develop some principles to live and stand by, lets base our foundations on something solid that is Best for all LIFE. And Desteni is just the place, guaranteed – walk the DIP LITE free online course and I can also be your Buddy, work with me work with yourself, and grow.

Day 7 - Can a Father be Prepared within himself?

 If you are a new father, a Father for the first time, I know the concerns and worries, the insecurities and fears, they all come up and they do affect us as Fathers.

What I have found within the past two and a half years of being a father is that one CAN prepare for becoming a father; there is a way, and a successful way. You basically have to redefine the word father for yourself within practical terms that is Best for all, considering reality. Before we get to what I mean by all that, I am going to talk a bit about the father concept in general.

You see, I have seen many fathers and how they are with their children, I have seen the "images" being portrayed in the movies and magazines of what it apparently means to be a father according to the world/system, and I can tell you, it is just an image, it is just something that is being portrayed, there is nothing special or beautiful about it, there is however a "reality check" and within that enjoyment and moments, but it isn't this image that the world is attempting to portray of what it means to be a "great and amazing father"

Be honest with yourself, you were and are a son to a father, what was or is your relationship with your father or in some cases your father figure? How is your father a father, what has become your definition of being a father?

The reason you must ask and look at these questions is because you will find within answering them for yourself what father you will be or attempt to be, and this is the first problem, because then you are selling yourself out, you are now attempting to be your father as a father, or you are attempting to be a father according to how the system has created expectations within you of what it should be to be a father. Within doing this, taking this approach because you know no other way, because you never went to "schooling for fathers" you will use what you have learned through your environment and society, which is once again "the sins of the father" - as we are all familiar with this term. We just keep on repeating history over and over.

I write this log to get fathers to be the new age, to be the change, to stop the sins of the fathers, the reason is simple, just take a look at the world, take a good look, it isn't a place for a child, it isn't safe, it isn't secure, it isn't caring, it isn't giving, it is a mess, a survival game of who has money and who doesn't. and this is because parenting, and being a father has simply been copied from one generation to another, and the result is obvious, it is NOT good parenting, and this isn't to blame, or to point fingers or judge, it is to forgive and move on with solutions within the understanding that just like us our parents didn't know any other way, but in today's time and age, we know better and the earth is giving us amazing feedback that things must change NOW, because the world is not a good place, our parents and their parents before them, weren't good parents, and we must all admit this, because just take a look around, your life might be okay - but the world is on the brink of destruction, our air is polluted, our oceans are polluted, fish are going extinct, our forests are being destroyed, and animals going extinct daily, war and poverty is soaring, our economic systems are collapsing and destroying lives , our Eco systems are way out of balance, there is no future for our children if we simply copy and paste our parenting from those that has gone before us. Because that is the result of what is here today. it is common sense in simplicity f not denying what is obvious.

So scaling it back down to daily fatherhood. I had to for a moment show the bigger picture to get my point across to why this blog is important and why we must change where we can, starting with ourselves, as fathers to children that will inherit the earth, and we want our children to inherit a good earth, and they must be raised to be the keepers of this good earth/planet, to not create this again. 

So, If you are going to become a Father, or if you are right now a father for the first time, then this is the best advice I can give you as I have seen and lived this for myself with my son/child for the past two and a half years, you must not attempt to change your child, your child is perfect, you must change YOU, at all times. let me explain, the Idea is sold to us that we must raise our children, and our definition of raising our children is warped, it comes from the idea that they are not smart, that they are stupid, that they need our input all the time as what to know and what is important or not, when in fact we are not raising our children, we are simply being guides, support and assistance, as they are born perfect within their starting point as who they are - and we cannot guide or support or assist our children to become their utmost potential as long as we ourselves exist within the old ways, the old mind set, the ways of our fathers, because that isn't guiding or supporting or assisting, that is what we call brainwashing and putting your child into a cult, which we call a culture, which is once again the old ways that has led to what is here today as the world as a whole.

So, to redefine the word father as to NOT be the sins of the fathers but to be something for you as a father that is practical and that is applicable in each moment, a father is support, guidance, assistance and to a child, this child isn't your property, this child isn't yours to do with as you please, this child belongs to the earth, to LIFE, as this child will one day become part of society, and if we train them as we see fit for our own self-interest as to fit our own cultures or religions or family standards just to look good or feeling like we belong or that we are doing the right thing, then we are simply creating a doomed future for our children as those exact things are what created the mess that is here today as the world that they are supposed to inherit.

For you to live the new definition of father as to be the change you want to see in this world, is going to be difficult, yet it is going to make parenting and being a father easier, you need to work on yourself, you need to take responsibility for yourself, you are going to have to set a Principle that you live by, instead of Ideas, opinions and believes, because they will confuse you, they will make you feel depressed and down and sad and angry and frustrated, because reality isn’t going to fit with your believes/ideas or opinions when it comes to your child, and this is why the physical correction as a father must be to be a guide, to be assistance and support and to be that you as a father must first find your stability, because once the child is here there will be no time to find your stability and you will fall into the traps of the old ways and give in to the ideas/opinions and believes that was set before you, you will trust other peoples words on what parenting is and follow their vice when it should not be followed, you will d and try things suggested by parents/grandparents as what they have done and you will go for it, because you do not have stability within you to stand and direct, and thus create what has already been created instead of creating change.

I walked a Process with the Group Desteni for 5 and a half years before I became a father, I was more than prepared and this helped me a lot to the guide/support and assistance not only for my child, but also for my wife, as she went through most of everything. I will write on practical examples and ways and situations that we have faced and how we dealt with it, specifically me as the “father” – how we had to move beyond ideas/opinions and beliefs and into practical corrections that is best for all, to be clear, I am not saying I was or am perfect, but I am saying I made this process a lot easier for myself and I know every father will want the same for himself. (and Mothers)

So, if you are going to be a father, or are a new father – take this Free online course by Desteni and learn to understand yourself, this will be most important within dealing with yourself as you are a father and the new journey of having a baby/child takes your life and reality to a whole new level, when the emotions and feelings and strange thoughts come up, know where they come from, understand them, stop them and do not give into them, but you need to develop the tools to do so, and this is exactly what this course teaches you.

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Day 6 - Working dad, tired dad, excused dad

I haven’t had many encounters with dad’s in my life raising children, all my life I have only encountered dads who come home and sit somewhere and do something with their own time, while the mother is still working/raising a human being (the baby/child).

I used to think nothing of it, it was normal to be that way – because it is all justifiable according to what has been generally accepted, which is – mom raises baby/child/human while dad is out working all day and when he comes home he may just sit and do nothing else but relax and carry the “burden of working and providing.

BUT – this was many years ago, times have changed –in today’s time’s most moms are also working, so now mom and dad are working while the baby/child is taken care of by someone else, either a nanny or a family member, or the child is send to a creche.

So now in many families – including my own, there is a different situation, the situation is both parents come home from a full day of work, and then there is still a baby that needs to be taken care of.

So now we have two scenarios – the one where mom takes care of baby all day and dad comes home from a long day of work and rest/do nothing, and then the other one where both parents work all day and come home and now there is still a baby to look after.

Now what happens within both these situations is quite fascinating – no matter which situation it is – dad gets to rest – primarily in most families, while mom who also came from work still needs to do everything for the baby, which is hard work, plus cooking and cleaning and all the other things.

These are my observations of other families/people that I have met and been with. It is unspoken in the families and simply accepted, or to place it better – it is how they have chosen to accept it.

After observing people and families, I have come to be in the same situation, having a baby and a wife and myself, all three of having to live together with the same circumstances as everyone else in a manner of speaking.

I am working, my wife is working and there is our baby – My wife/partner works from home as she always have, she has a responsibility within work plus now having a baby at home, I work away from home – I have a job that can keep me busy all day as long as it must take to do my work.

So what now? When I come home, my wife has been working plus taking care of the baby and here I come home with the idea that my work for the day is over, meantime my wife never gets off, she is working 24/7.

So what excuses me from not doing more when I get home, what excuses me from doing that part equally as my wife with raising the baby and doing what needs to be done, I mean she is doing it.

This raised an interesting question within me – we MEN love to boast how strong and physically better we are than women, we love to be the provider and the “strong” being in the relationship, we men like to impose that we are better than women, yet I think we men simply like the idea of it all. Because when it comes to what the men are doing versus what the mother/women is doing, we do not compare.

We live in a time where there cannot be any more excuses why we aren’t taking over half the diaper changing once home after work, and doing half the feeding of the baby once home from work, or education and playing with the baby once home from work, mom is able to do it, so why is dad not doing it?

I have been pushing myself to live up to my potential as a worthy father of life by simply using my wife/partner as an example.

I will be sharing real encounters in the next blogs, each point at a time on the topic raised here.
To be continued.

Day 5 Father’s day – Daddy isn't "here"

I am a full time working dad/father, I go out in the mornings and I have no idea what time I will be back home, this is a reality for me.

While I am out and about doing business/work, I have a baby boy at home, with a mother that takes care of him full time, I have to quickly add, the mother works harder and longer hours than me, this work being raising another human, her job never ends, it is quite amazing seeing the human capacity when choice is removed.

Whereas I leave in the morning and come home some time, most of the time I come home at night time, or late afternoons.

When I arrive home I am tired, I feel drained, I spend hours on the road and hours talking and communicating with other human beings, and I spend a good amount of time with paper work, so most of the day I am not using ALL of my body, I only use my brain a lot and my lips for speaking, sitting SOO much.

When I get home at my random time, I find my son Cesar somewhere around the house, either he is being carried or he is being entertained by someone or he is being fed, or he is playing on the floor with his toys and developing himself in all possible ways, like right now he is crawling easily forward and standing up against objects, he falls and drops a few times and then have a cry. He gets up and simply try again, I can learn a lot from him.

when I am home the first thing I do is get out of my Business cloths, I get into comfortable clothes that is also cloths that can/may get stains and dirty, which is perfect for working with a baby lol.

After I get into my comfortable clothes I go and get myself a coffee and I go sit outside and I have the coffee and check my cellphone and my emails and I play a game on my cellphone, I do this to just blow off steam and get myself to relax.

As I finish my coffee and I am done with the game I will go back to the room where Cesar and Leila are, I usually still feel tired and drained, within this I tell myself to just relax, focus on breathing, let go of the day, I am here now, I must deal with what’s here now, so I play a bit more games or I go check the news or my facebook for 30min. do my own thing.

This is the part I struggle with currently, yet I am already much better of letting the Entire day go, all of it, all the information that I have received and given and all the information that is still running, like schedules and planning and arrangements and all those things.

But as this goes on and I am working on “breathing” and “relaxing” and letting “go” I am forgetting one thing, my son.

I become so self-centered at focusing at my own things going on, I don’t even give it a thought to go spend time the Cesar, that five minutes to just hug him and to be with him and to show him that I am here, he is here.

And interestingly enough, when I do that, it turns out I actually then let go of the mind bullshit and I become focused here as breath, it is as they say, everything is in reverse.

Here I am believing that I must first clear myself, I must first get my mind clear before spending time with my son, which in return actually traps me within my mind, because I am attempting to relax and let go through being in the mind, which is a contradiction within itself, as the mind can’t extinguish itself with itself.

When I turn my focus to something Physical such as Cesar my son, then I am in that moment making the conscious/aware decision to move from the past as my day that’s behind me to be here as the Physical as my son being with him, in the moment as him.

So I have now made a agreement with myself to everyday once I come from work to pack my stuff off, to get dressed in different cloths and to immediately go to Cesar and to hug him and give him my time once I am done with work.

Let us be clear, it is not to suppress or hide or anything like that of the whole day that has been over, it is to be a responsible being/father for the child that I am an example to.

See I have a simple decision to make as the example I am living in the eyes of my son, he will not learn what I say to him, he will learn what I live, as I am his male figure that he will be imprinting from, and since he only sees me at my worse which is after an entire day that I have been awesome, then he will learn that moment of the day of who I am within that moment, and he will see that as the example. That last part when I believe its now okay to escape into the mind.

So I have made the decision that I will be awesome for my son to be the living example of what is here as what’s best for all life, through living that in fact, to change this pattern of unawareness and to turn it into an aware moment of creative living.

what’s the point of being awesome for the whole world, but once I am in my sons presence I am a distracted shifting mind controlled zombie that walks around, believing the world out there, this system is more deserving of my attention then my own son, as my son will become this world and thus live within these systems and I have to be the example for him to walk and change this and thus not live as the mind as some tired worn out piece of a man calling himself dad, too tired to help out mom and to spend time with the kid using excuses of work, and that I have been working all day, and the day was hard and I deserve to just rest now and have time for myself to be this zoned out man.

NO – that’s not what I am accepting and allowing as my definition of a father – I am giving the attention to my child that I am giving to my job (as an example) outside as well, the same as what a mother does, a 24/7 job, if she can do it I can.

This is not a point of self-judgment, it is me re-aligning myself within the awareness of my actions within the presence of others/myself at all times, to be the same one and equal and to not change this presence once I am in a different area and to not shift, within the consideration of what my actions are creating within my reality as those that sees me as an example, in this case my child/boy Cesar.

And this change goes hand in hand with the principals or living commitments that I as a Destonian stand as – Living my utmost potential and nothing less.
Happy fathers day.

Day 4 - where is the parenting manual

I suppose all new parents have this same experience, that first day leaving the Hospital with the baby, it has been four months since Cesar’s birth, but I still have to express this point.

So we drove to the hospital, Cesar was born about 5 hours later, it was a long and tiring night, all kinds of moments popped up that one is faced with, moments like, is the baby Ok, is the mother Ok, is everything going well, what’s happening moments, and then there is the moment it’s all over and the baby is here.

Now more blogs will come on those three days in Hospital, for now I want to share this point, that day we left the hospital.

The first three days of having a baby is easy, because it’s happening in the hospital, there are many hands helping, there are many people that know what to do – (sort of, a blog in its own), and there are a lot of support around, the facilities and the equipment for anything that might go wrong.

So for three days the mother is lying in bed resting, the baby comes and goes as the nurses see fit, I visit as much as possible and so do others, it’s all a nice and good experience for most of the parts.

The last day, I go to the hospital, I tell the nurses I am here to pick up my wife and our baby, they ask me, did the doctor say that the baby and your wife can be released, and yes the doctor has, so I go to my wife and she says that there still needs to be a few checks done.

So I wait, the nurses come in and out checking stuff, the doctors come in and do checks, I start packing things up and getting everything in bags.

The last doctor says, you are ready to go – I look at her, I say ok thank you, and I look at Leila and I say, are you ready, she says yes – a nurse arrives and she says that she will guide us out; she will carry the baby, that’s a policy.

So we start walking, we have everything of ours and now an extra human coming with us, home, as we exit the hospital and we get to the car, the nurse hands over the baby, I start assembling the baby seat and getting the settings ready, the nurse is just standing there watching, I am struggling, and then the nurse left after handing the baby over to Leila.

So now it was just me and Leila and the baby, I suddenly had a realization, its real, and the nurse just left us, she did not hand over a manual or anything, lol.

She did not even give us tips or advice, even the entire time we were in the hospital, no one told us anything, no one gave us advice on how to be parents, on how to raise a baby, no one told us anything, and it’s not like we learned anything in the three days of being in the hospital, because the nurses were doing everything and not telling us a thing.

This created the illusion that it would be easy, that it’s all smooth going. But I at least knew I can do this, so that wasn’t a deciding factor in my approach, it was just a shock; I had a couple of realizations in that one moment.

These realizations were a reality kick in the face, because this is what everyone goes through, and this is what Babies/new-born humans are left with, they are left with parents that does not know shit about being parents or raising a child, they are left in the hands of strangers actually, even if it is the baby’s parents, the baby does not know them, the doctors does not know them, so how can a baby just be left like that into the hands of two humans that is now going to raise their child on luck and hope.

In all the time we were in the hospital, no one asked us, do you know what to do as new parent’s, are you ready to be new parents, do you need any advice or tips on being new parents, do you know how to handle a Baby, do you know what to do if this or that happens, NO, nothing like that took place, it was all just left to be.

Obviously the Hospital and everyone working in it believe that the people in there giving birth planned it, or have been making plans or educated themselves to be parents, which isn’t the case I would say 90% of the time - what is educating self on being an actual parent – there is no such book, it’s all a pick and choose a style, which isn’t reliable, and even if one relies on it it’s all just lies yet parenthood is an agreement, so parenting has to include the parents having an effective communication/relationship first.

What I saw and experienced at the hospital according to my standards of living the principle of doing what’s best for all life, I cannot accept and allow this, this isn’t best for the parents and for the babies/children/adults to be, that will one day run this world, we need a new system, it all starts at home, with the families, with the new born humans and what’s then happens in the future, and so the future of earth.

I have opened up in this blog many points to write on and to expose the problems we face as humanity within parenting itself, and the system’s ineffectiveness – which I as a new father am facing and have faced and still facing. From being a parent to being a working man and a partner.

The point of self-responsibility must be understood, we cannot wait till the system changes, because we are the system, we must change first -

Day 2 – Money and preperation.

The following point is a point I faced in the past in relation to making the decision on having a baby in relationship with the money point. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see and realize that Money is the most important point to consider when the Idea or decision making of having a baby comes into one’s Life.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see and realize that without Sufficient money to support my life style plus a baby added I will have consequences that does not just affect me but also the Child and the Child’s life in total and thus the future of Life on earth.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to First look at LOVE and if the love within the relationship is good enough or not to have a baby and to only then look at money, instead of looking at – do we want a baby? Yes or no, and then to first look at practicality which is the point of money as the one thing that allows us to eat/drink have basic needs met daily.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to look at having a baby from a limited perspective of how I feel and how my partner feels and that is all that matters, instead of looking at the entire perspective which is within practicality and common sense where I consider the LIFE of the new Being that will/may be entering this world and how I and my Partner will be able to support and assist the new being to reach his/her full potential within NOT making money an Issue within the child’s life and what support the child will receive.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to Belief that real happiness isn’t all about money, seeing and realizing that having money isn’t about happiness it is about having sufficient support and assistance for oneself within the current system and to not suffer, and thus I see that if I base having a baby on this perspective of money doesn’t bring happiness so FUCK IT let’s have a baby – I am then deliberately already creating a life of fear and suffering where its unnecessary and preventable for the child that will create/produce a human/adult that will simply continue giving as what was given – fear and suffering.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that it is BAD and WRONG to make a decision such as having a baby based on money – seeing and realizing that this decision isn’t first based on money as the decision has to first be discussed within the agreement/relationship and then come to a YES/NO answer from both partners and to then from that decision look at the practical points and if they are in place or not such as Money being the first thing, and to then get everything practically in place first and then have a baby.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to belief that if my partner becomes pregnant without us planning it or have prepared for it that it is a gift from some higher form of life, when the truth is there was simply no protection used – and thus have about nine months to get our shit in place.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to belief that something such as having a baby must happen spontaneously for it to be seen as a sign that this is the right time – seeing and realizing that this spontaneous moment is really just due to irresponsibility and not considering actions and their consequences one and equal. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to NOT consider the BIG picture as the world and to then take everything into consideration within the world, and then my life circles/relationships and my personal bubble, and to within this consider all dimensions to check if I am ready to be a father and to take the Full responsibility for another being within the current world and what’s here and to stand within that as a real decision where I can see My life and the life of the baby and where it will be in 50 years for example and if this decision right now can stand within being supportive within all areas of the babies life to be the best and to reach the fullest potential so that the child can with me bring about a world that is best for all life as being the Father/example.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see and realize that there are already Millions of children/babies without parents and homes and basic needs that isn’t close to being met, and thus it is my responsibility to bring a child into this world that will have all the basic needs met for my child and that there is no suffering for my child as this will add one more child to the list of correction, even if it means rather not having a child if the outflow will be that of abuse and suffering. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see and realize that if I want to bring a child into this world that I must be fully aware of how the world functions and where the world is heading as it is currently - so that I know in full awareness what LIFE I am setting up for my child – and thus as I do see this - I see and realize also that it is up to me as a father or a father to be to bring about change within this world not just for my child but for ALL children and all life so that I know my child will live a life I never can/will, and yet give my life for this purpose as what is best for all life as a father.

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To be continued with Self corrective statements.

Day 1 - a new Fathers Journey to Life.

Me and my Partner a few weeks pregnant already.

I am Starting this new Blog - I decided to Jump right in.

The Question is - can anyone be prepared for being a Father?

I have had a couple of conversations with people about becoming a father - especially when i was working as a salesmen, I met a lot of people - and they all say the same thing, a baby changes your life, most of all they COST you a lot of money.

but from what I have heard most men wasn't prepared - they really did not consider the facts and the physical outflows of their actions - You know that one steamy night - and what it really means to be a father, they all simply learned along the way - yes the practical things that one can only learn once the baby is here sure - but I mean being a father as who I/you are, who a person has accepted and allowed themselves to be - which will be the constant education/influence to the baby/child.

which I saw as not really knowing what to do with the child and this is how children are raised and then run the world once we are all old??

I was actually quit shocked with some of the stories, I cant even tell it here on this blog from what people have told me about becoming fathers and how they handled it. mostly it all adds up to this quite nasty game of the fittest will survive and natural selection.

like the father is just there to be there and the mother is just there to be there and the System will take care of the children, send them to school as soon as possible so that the schools can educate them and raise them.

Yes many DO NOT have a choice, sadly this is the world we have created through our acceptances and allowances so we have to face the consequences till we have had enough and change it to a world that is best for all and actually enjoyable.

but those times when dad and mom gets off from work and the kid is at home and the family is together - education continues - this education is through words and behavior and that is happening constantly and another word for education is brainwashing really - and words and behavior is outflows of Who I/you/we Am/are.

some guys shared with me how after they have a child they start considering their words more because they saw the effects it has on their children and their behavior, like HOW they use swear words, not the swear word itself, the How - the who they are within using the swear words. and that they have changed that - so there was some cool points that i was glad to hear. but these points were  only realized once it has already created behavior in the child in relation to the word, and thus the child is quite old already, and thus to late - its learned - not the word - but the intention behind the word and thus a behavioral outflow.

so I listened to a lot of people telling me i must have a baby, I must become a daddy, I must really do it while I am young, then its much more fun and a lot more time to spend with your kids, this is what i am told by other fathers - I found it quite fascinating how obsessed guys were with getting me to become a father?? like group pressure in school.

yet they are mostly at work, making money and paying for the baby/child and they complain about that a lot - and then I am told again that a baby/child gives your life happiness and joy and meaning and it is such a great thing.

it was really mixed messages i got from other people/fathers - But I did not get mixed or moved by it, as i use my own common sense and base my decisions on the common sense and what is practical,

Back to the Question now - can anyone be prepared for being a father?

the answer is YES - of course a person can be prepared - the preparation does not start only once there is news of a baby - the preparation starts already within who I am/who you are and more.and even if there is already news or a baby or child, this still counts, self change is always for the best.

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to be continued on these points on preparation and explanation and SF and SCS that I have supported and assisted myself through.

this blog will have many dimensions within the points of parenting and fatherhood. and my Journey.