|Me and my Partner a few weeks pregnant already.|
I am Starting this new Blog - I decided to Jump right in.
The Question is - can anyone be prepared for being a Father?
I have had a couple of conversations with people about becoming a father - especially when i was working as a salesmen, I met a lot of people - and they all say the same thing, a baby changes your life, most of all they COST you a lot of money.
but from what I have heard most men wasn't prepared - they really did not consider the facts and the physical outflows of their actions - You know that one steamy night - and what it really means to be a father, they all simply learned along the way - yes the practical things that one can only learn once the baby is here sure - but I mean being a father as who I/you are, who a person has accepted and allowed themselves to be - which will be the constant education/influence to the baby/child.
which I saw as not really knowing what to do with the child and this is how children are raised and then run the world once we are all old??
I was actually quit shocked with some of the stories, I cant even tell it here on this blog from what people have told me about becoming fathers and how they handled it. mostly it all adds up to this quite nasty game of the fittest will survive and natural selection.
like the father is just there to be there and the mother is just there to be there and the System will take care of the children, send them to school as soon as possible so that the schools can educate them and raise them.
Yes many DO NOT have a choice, sadly this is the world we have created through our acceptances and allowances so we have to face the consequences till we have had enough and change it to a world that is best for all and actually enjoyable.
but those times when dad and mom gets off from work and the kid is at home and the family is together - education continues - this education is through words and behavior and that is happening constantly and another word for education is brainwashing really - and words and behavior is outflows of Who I/you/we Am/are.
some guys shared with me how after they have a child they start considering their words more because they saw the effects it has on their children and their behavior, like HOW they use swear words, not the swear word itself, the How - the who they are within using the swear words. and that they have changed that - so there was some cool points that i was glad to hear. but these points were only realized once it has already created behavior in the child in relation to the word, and thus the child is quite old already, and thus to late - its learned - not the word - but the intention behind the word and thus a behavioral outflow.
so I listened to a lot of people telling me i must have a baby, I must become a daddy, I must really do it while I am young, then its much more fun and a lot more time to spend with your kids, this is what i am told by other fathers - I found it quite fascinating how obsessed guys were with getting me to become a father?? like group pressure in school.
yet they are mostly at work, making money and paying for the baby/child and they complain about that a lot - and then I am told again that a baby/child gives your life happiness and joy and meaning and it is such a great thing.
it was really mixed messages i got from other people/fathers - But I did not get mixed or moved by it, as i use my own common sense and base my decisions on the common sense and what is practical,
Back to the Question now - can anyone be prepared for being a father?
the answer is YES - of course a person can be prepared - the preparation does not start only once there is news of a baby - the preparation starts already within who I am/who you are and more.and even if there is already news or a baby or child, this still counts, self change is always for the best.
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to be continued on these points on preparation and explanation and SF and SCS that I have supported and assisted myself through.
this blog will have many dimensions within the points of parenting and fatherhood. and my Journey.